What’s Your Style?

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Hola mi amigos!

For the past few weeks, I have been experiencing technical difficulties with my internet and laptop. The issue has been temporary solved; however please bear with me with irregular posts, until it’s all sorted. Good things come to those who can wait. =)) Lol!

Thanks!

While I’ve been waiting for my technical gadgets to get fixed, I took my time to think about what my next blog was going to be. Colour combinations, colour palettes, and colour schemes are on hold, for now (if I can help it), and I’m starting a series on, STYLE! 😀

I hope this would create an awareness on knowing what style best suites you, and your wedding or any other social event you have coming up. I wouldn’t describe myself as a fashionista or a stylista. In fact I’m not. I can hear my sisters laughing. However, I do have an eye for fashion and style and I love it!

Hmm…What is style?

I went hunting for its meaning, that would have a suitable relation to an individuals’ personal fashion sense and I stumbled upon this quote and I created the feature image below.

Weddings have various types of styles, which are all dependent on the couples’ individual or combined styles, or the bride’s style alone.

In Nigeria, I realised that very few brides, actually put their personal style into their wedding. Their complains are always, “the décor is expensive,” or “my mum won’t allow it.”

The style of any wedding should not be limited to just Christians alone. You can be a devoute Muslim and still have a very stylist wedding!

Gist: I have a friend who is getting married later on in the year (i’m praying she doesn’t kill me for this). When I asked her details of her wedding, and she initially told me hadn’t a clue on what to do, so she let her mum handle everything (this usually the norm in a lot of cases). She happens to be the only girl of four children. I can see some of you shaking your heads saying, no J, that’s not an excuse.

However, if you knew her well I like I do, you’ll understand where she’s coming from.

As we spoke a little further, I joking mentioned how my sister said she wanted a bouncing castle at her wedding and no high heels were allowed. My friend agreed with having the bouncing castle, and asked if it would be weird if she had it with a pop-corn stand and a cotton candy machine.

Guess what? She wasn’t joking. So I asked her to suggest it to her fiancé and her mum, and hear what they had to say.

So what type of wedding styles are there? Here are the popular ones:

  • Classic / Formal
  • Casual
  • Romantic
  • Vintage
  • Whimsical
  • Modern / Contemporary
  • Beach / Garden

Classic / Formal Wedding

This is perfect for those couples who value elegance and tradition, or a bride with a “prim and proper” lady personality. The classic / formal wedding style comes with an elegance, sophistication, grace and style. It can often be perceived as a very expensive wedding. However, if you are on a tight budget, just make sure that your choice of dress, hair style, accessories, bridal party, and the decor of the ceremony and reception venues are classy and formal.

image from Bella Naija

The picture above is a classic over the top Nigerian wedding.

QUESTION: Which recent Nigerian wedding that you have been to in the last 5 years, do think or feel, can be described as a Classic Wedding style?

Casual Wedding
This style of wedding can be described as a simplistic or dressed-down, with a laid back ambience, or an understated elegance, without any of the typical splendour, glamour and display of an over the top wedding. This could be described as casual elegance. It has a more relaxed easy going approach which is still stylish yet elegant and sophisticated in all essence. However, it is not extreme.

This type of casualness permits a carefree aesthetic, as well as the opportunity for the couple or the bride to express their personality, and style.

image fro theKnot.com

This can be considered as a perfect failsafe Nigerian wedding style, especially for brides, like my clueless  friend. Lol!

Romantic Wedding
Every wedding is romantic! No matter how rigid, laud, tacky, minimal, small, big, or over the top, all weddings have elements of romance in it.

Weddings are celebrations of two people, and two families. It is the proclamation of love that is uniting these two individuals. These love stories can be celebrated spiritually, or through the aesthetics of the reception venues used, or literally, like during the bride and groom thank you speeches. Every romantic element, cheesy or not, work out well for a romantic wedding.

The dress, heart shapes, flowers, butterflies, love birds motif, pastel colours, romantic songs or music, venue décor, etc. This is where your wedding planner or venue decorator, has to get real creative, especially when there’s a cut-throat budget.

SPOLIER ALERT => Speaking of romantic; I’m so glad to inform you all that “I ♥ 9ja O wan bé”, would be featuring its first Real Wedding! Yes! And it’s a romantic wedding style. Stay tuned.

Vintage Wedding
For a Vintage Wedding style, think of old-fashion flair, with old perfume bottles, vintage cars, iconic old movies like; Gone With The Wind, or Roman Holiday. Ok, hold on, let me bring it closer to home. Think Lagos  back in the 1950’s. Or look at the image feature below, that would help.

i couldn’t believe this was Lagos when i first saw it. click on the image to read the blog diaries of Margaret Jefferies visit to Nigeria in 1951

Vintage has a lot of French laces, Cameo’s, pearls, bird cage hats and hair pieces, frills, feathers, cropped hair styles, sheath long and short dresses, roses, gloves etc. No wait, please don’t wear gloves. This is Nigeria, where most of the time the weather is humid, dry or hot. Even if it’s rainy season, stay away from gloves! Its a HUGE no no!

image from wedding industry pros. click on the picture to open up link to http://www.weddingindustrypros.com/moodboards/1920s-vintage-weddings/ to get a mind twirling innovative ideas for vintage wedding

Vintage styles date as far back as the early 1960’s to the 1900’s. A lot of Nigerian event decor designers, would know this type of style as Old Hollywood. Yes that’s what I’m referring to!

If your reception venue comes with a chandelier, good for you! Use muted, neutral, pastel colours, lots of candles and foliage, because less is more! This would create a romantic atmosphere that dates back to simpler times. Why not ask your reception décor designer to create that cosy feel using neutral colours, like the picture of a reception décor my company did sometime last year.

image from Dews of Keziah decor archives

Whimsical Wedding
This type of wedding style is mostly based on themes. This is great for creative couples that both share a passion for or common interest for something.

For example: Books, Colours, TV show, Movie, Cars, Food, Art, Culture, Various Seasons in the Year etc. This type of wedding style is meant for everyone to relax and have loads of fun! Below is an Indian themed wedding in Nigeria, with the bride and groom dressed accordingly. As I later found out, the groom is a friend’s cousin. Lol! small world

image from google

Modern/Contemporary Wedding
Modern/ Contemporary weddings is another way to have a great party, instead of the stereotyped classic/ formal weddings. Modern/ Contemporary weddings make Classic/ Formal weddings that look very stiff and boring! This type of wedding encourages the use of vibrant colours. At the beginning of this post, remember I said colours were on hold? I couldn’t help it! Modern / Contemporary wedding styles are all about CRAZY COLOUR COMBOS and CREATIVITY! I’ll call it the 4 C’s. Check out the colours below.

combinded images from google

See this colour combination, Blue and Green, I LOVE IT! The next is Black, Pink and White colour mood board.

combinded images from theKnot.com and calligraphy by jennifer

Nigerians do well with modern/ contemporary weddings. In fact, I think a lot of weddings recently in Lagos, all have a twist of modern/contemporary and whimsical styles meshed into one. For example, Stephanie Okereke and Linus Idahosa’s Magical Wedding, though it wasn’t done in Nigeria, but you understand what I am saying.

images from video clips of stphanie and linus idahosa’s wedding

The really cool thing about Modern/Contemporary styles is that the can be used for other events aside from weddings. Like, Cocktail Parties, Birthday Parties, Corporate Events, Corporate Product Launches, Company Branding, etc.

Beach / Garden Wedding
Right now, we are smack in the middle of Raining Season. If you are bent on having this style of wedding, please look towards the months of February to May. The reason being, the months of October to January are usually Harmattan Haze months, and the weather is usually uncomfortable, with it being cold and dry at the same time.

Sometimes, there are flashes of rain. Personally, the months of February to May is our summer time and would be more favourable.

A Beach/Garden wedding has a lot to give: it’s fun in the sun, and has a magical backdrop. This would add ambience, natural décor scenery, and view to the whole event. They both sing the loudest for flirty dresses and colours, which rise from bright and catchy to soft pastels.

images from Dews of Keziah decor archives

Your décor would be minimal, because it’s outdoor surrounding would do most of the complimenting. The dressing for the bride should or could be light and flirty. High heels at the beach is a BIG, “Oh no you dint! Gurrl, what chu thinkin’?” Why not buy rhinestone flat sandals or flats, or slippers, this would be perfect for the beach.

For the Garden wedding style, if you have wood flooring assembled on the grass, a medium heel sling back  open toe sandals, would be advisable, or pretty ballerina flats. For your wedding souvenirs,  pashminas, scarfs or sunglasses are great ideas.

Phewww! That was long. Please fill free to participate in the questions I asked. It is just a way to create dialogue and interaction between myself and my readers.

Next post, “That Body, That Dress”,…till then kisses.

♥ J!

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6 thoughts on “What’s Your Style?

    Ayoade said:
    July 30, 2012 at 6:55 am

    Jumoke, i must say that this very nice. A masterpiece. thinking of having my wedding done all over again. The beach and garden way.

    Christmas in Emerald Green! « i love 9ja o wan bé said:
    December 25, 2012 at 10:41 am

    […] features. I have finally put up the post on a real wedding I had spoken about in an earlier post What’s Your Style. Also in real wedding features, I would put a newspaper article about a wedding Dews of Keziah […]

    fashionjadeedah said:
    January 8, 2013 at 8:07 pm

    Hello, nice blog you have here,i found your blog through our connection on LinkedIn and i will definitely follow the blog.
    Btw, is that Moh in the indian themed wedding picture?

      keziah's dew responded:
      January 9, 2013 at 2:20 pm

      hi ya fashionjadeedah!
      thanks for following my blog. lol! didn’t think Linkedin had its benefits.
      moh? who dat?? lol! like i said in the post, i found the picture via Google and traced it to some Nigerian wedding blog site. i later found-out that the guy was a close friend’s cousin. lol! really a small world.
      i am going through your blog right now. i’ll leave a comment once i’m done. ♥ J!

    Sweet Turquoise Peach « i love 9ja o wan bé said:
    January 26, 2013 at 5:45 pm

    […] these pictures you can tell that the Wedding Style is Formal with a Modern twist. The tall French windows, the cutlery, the deep set gold chiavari […]

    Brides in Techni-Colours | i love 9ja o wan bé said:
    June 26, 2013 at 2:37 pm

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