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TAMING THE GUEST SIZE Part 1

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Hi ya!

How are you all doing? Good I believe. Whatever way it is I Celebrate You!

Any English literature student wouldn’t think twice as to who, when, what, and where my post title came from. Well, I am certain that the famous William Shakespeare play, “Taming The Shrew”, has no relations to this post, but I am hopeful a little link may be derived. Loll!

This topic says a lot, and it has been a festering peeve in my mind since the day I ventured into the world of events. However, I do strongly advice readers the sensitivity of this post, so I beg of you, to please read with an open mind and with ultra-super shock absorbing caution. Loll! :D. Also there may not be any pictures put up in this to stimulate the urge to carry on reading.

I asked a few close colleagues in events, what their opinions were about having a large crowd at events they had attended or managed. 3 out of 5 had quite a lot to complain about, 1 said she was indifferent and the other person said she rather enjoys it (odd).

In this harsh economy crisis worldwide, where everyone is tightening their spending purse, and taking to account of every last N 1.00, whilst singing constantly to everyone’s hearing, “there’s no money oooo!” Why are there still Nigerians, having colossal, enormous, and gargantuan, proportions of at their events? They usually range from 1000 to 2500 and above. The main culprits are usually the singers of “there’s no money oooo!” Here are some of the experiences from friends in the events industry I had spoken to.

**Theirs names, venues, and places have been changed for strictest confidentiality.

“Jumoke, it was the next thing to a horror movie, true! The annoying things is that we planners get blamed for the clients’ atrocities.”

Meet **Jaime. Jaime had a client who had set everything for guest size of 500 people. The bride and groom made a exigency plan for an extra 150 people, should in case their guest size expanded. However, the couple got MORE than they had bargained for. Jaime said she was in the restroom at the venue, to freshen up after ensuring the venue was set for the arrival of guests.

“Jumoke, which was how one of my assistants burst into the restroom saying, ‘J the community has arrived!’”
Jaime said, she was confused, and went out to see and understand what her assistant was fretting about.
“Jumoke that was when I saw two 18 seater buses filled with women and a few men, all clad in bright red geles, red double wrappers and white puffed armed blouses, chatting loudly and bouncing into the venue.”

Jamie said that by the time the bride and groom had arrived from the church, not only where there no more seats inside the venue, there were crowds of people were hovering outside at the foyer and the main entrance. Food, drinks, sweets, and all edibles had exhausted. Even contingency backups were gone in a hearts’ beat. Trusting Nigerians, a small squabble had begun at the food stations. Jaime said her main concern where the couple, their parents, and the couple’s friends, and they were all fine.

Jamie and her assistant did a guest size estimation and realized that there were approximately over a 1000 plus guests, as opposed to the 500 to 650 people the couple had prepared for.
My sympathies to Jamie. Let me give my own personal experience with dealing with “unplanned and not informed” large guest sizes.

I coordinated an event for one my mum’s close friend some time ago. I have known this aunty since when lost my front teeth as a kid. I was told my aunt that it was going to be a wedding reception for 1000 people. The venue was quite tight, in terms of table setup for 1000 guests, inclusive of food stations and desserts station in the venue. I found out that the hall is meant to seat only 800 people, banquet style, comfortably.
As you can imagine and guess rightly, the venue was filled to OVER CAPACITY! Mind you, while I was being harassed by disconcerted, flustered, rude, insolent and annoyed guests, to find seats for them, the venue manger called me aside and informed that their last reserve of standby 1000 chairs and 100 tables are all in the venue, and I should please kindly inform people that there were no more seats. Aka, NO MOR SHEIR AND TEBU!

Can you imagine that? Here’s an interesting conversation I overheard with the bride and a friend in tête-à-tête while I was dismantling the wedding cake after the reception.
Her friend: “Your people plenty o.”
The bride: (bride laughs) “I don’t even know three quarter of the people here!”

Hmmm….comments anyone?

An event planner friend of mine told me this “Nightmare on Elms Street” house of horror wedding (all in her words), she “supposedly” “tried” to plan and coordinate a while ago.

Event Planner’s Code Name: 009 **Jane Buns (ROTFL!!!):-D

Jane Buns said that the bride came to her on recommendation from a friend in the UK. The bride was based in the Canada, however both parents of the couple are here in Nigeria. The brides’ parent are in Lagos and the groom’s parents in Ibadan, Oyo state. Jane said when she first met the bride, she was all smiles and teeth, seemingly naïve yet funny, and stingy. I told Jane that smiles, teeth, and stinginess should have set off red flags. Her problem with this bride was that the family were not up front about their budget and financial constraints for the wedding preparations, which made planning difficult and boiling point annoying (as Jane said).

The brides mum had insisted fervently on having a guest size of 1000 people and also having a venue on The Island to accommodate the expected guest size. All these proposed on the most minuscule budget ever. Another Red Flag. Though the bride and groom had initially asked for the wedding to take place at their place of residence, Canada, the bride’s mother disagreed to this plan. So, the couple opted for Lagos, and asked for a guest size of 500 people, because the groom made it known that his extended family and friends were not up to 200 and were not the party type. Again, that was disapproved by the bride’s mother.

Jane said what really rattled her chains was that after she had successfully solicited and haggled with 2 prominent venues on the Island for the traditional ceremony and the white wedding reception, at almost near redundant ridiculous prices, the expected 1000 people guest from the bride’s mother did not match up!
“Jumoke, enraged cannot describe how I felt at the events!” not only was the groom correct about his small nonparty animal family, the bride’s invited guests were less than 300 on the day of the traditional ceremony, and less that 500 on the day of the white wedding reception.

She said it so bad that, for the traditional wedding, once the all formalities and the ceremony was over the groom’s family left. Once they left the whole place became void, only handful of the bride’s family and friends were present. For the white wedding reception, Jane said that the hall seating arrangement was split into two, groom’s side and the bride’s side. 5 tables on each side of the hall were removed to accommodate the caterers and make shift for tables and chairs that didn’t have table cloths and chair covers on them. Yet, the groom’s side only occupied about 15 to 20 tables on their on side. Jane then describe hall as ridiculous because the groom’s family were placed at the entrance, so if you were a guest, you would enter and notice that half of the hall was scanty while the other side was just as sparsely populated also. Hmmm…

I don’t want this topic to drag on, so I will; end it here, and continue in part two of taming the guest size.
Enjoy! ♥ J!

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Happy Easter, Resurrection Sunday!!

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Hola mi amigos!

Happy Easter, Resurrection Sunday!!

The post I promised of the baby shower, didn’t work out as planned. What happened? I forgot to take pictures. 😀

However, today is Easter Sunday, and Church service was a Blast!!! In case you are wondering what church i attend, it is The Common Wealth of Zion Assembly, COZA. 

So here is my small Easter message to everyone, dont get it twisted, I am in LOVE with Jesus, I am in LOVE with God and that makes me a full fledge Christian.

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Victorious Empty Tomb
One victorious empty tomb,
One life,
One death,
One world changed forever.

God’s power is very great for us who believe… the same as the great strength God used to raise Christ from the dead and put Him at His right side in the heavenly world. God has put Christ over all. Ephesians 1:19-21 (NCV)

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Jesus Christ has defeated the grave and made a way for us to have eternal life through Him.

We Celebrate Jesus!

He died that you and your family may live. The veil was torn so that you and your family are loosed from every and any bondage. He shed his blood that you and your family are free.

Praise God for sending His Son for us. For God is for us no one can be against us through Christ Jesus.

Praise the Lord for His Victory, and our salvation on this amazing Resurrection Sunday!

He is risen! He is alive!

Glory to God! Thank you Jesus!

Have a Glorious day!

♥ ‘J!

Sweet Turquoise Peach

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Hi y’all!

This 2013 I will be adding some widgets to the blog as the year goes on, especially one called “I’m part of post a week 2013”. This will prompt me to put up posts once a week. So keeping my fingers crossed I intend to follow it through.

Also as I had announced last year, that some changes will be made to the blog. I have decided NOT to change the name of this blog. Lol! I will tell you about it some other time. However, the blog is being worked on behind the scenes by my meek self and my tech geeks to make this blog service you and I better. I would update you from time to time as things progress.

So how has the New Year been so far? With the weird flashes of rains that has been occurring, aka Global Warming. Hehehe!

In this post we are doing colour combos of Turquoise Blue and Peach, with highlights of gold. Thus the post topic: “Sweet Turquoise Peach”. Another common name for all shades of Turquoises is “Aqua” or Cyan for the lighter shades. It wasn’t until I began this blog that I found out that there were 2 types of Turquoises. There’s Turquoise Blue and Turquoise Green. They both pretty much explain their hues and intensity by their names. The palettes below show what I am trying to say.

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From the colour palettes I’m sure you get the picture.

The chosen colour combos of Turquoise Blue, Peach and a touch of Gold are actual colours for a client’s weddings in April. Though they are not within the Pantone Colours for 2013 L, I will still talk about the lovely colour combination anyway.

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These colours are sweet! And they can be used at any season of the year. Though they are spring/summer colours and are usually recommended for beach, tropical or nautical weddings, it doesn’t matter! If you love a certain colour for your type of event, use it! No matter the season, weather, or region.

Peach is from the family of Orange, which is birthed by the combination of Red and Yellow. In the colour palette of Tangerine Tango post, you’ll also be able to identify the colour Peach in its hues.

The inspiration board I made below should be able to give you ideas of how the turquoise blue, peach and gold can be implemented into your event(s).

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Picking the Colour Flow for Your Décor

You could have the overall background to be just one colour with accents of the other colours to bring all the colours together.

For example; in the picture below, it shows the overall décor in Turquoise, with the floral centrepieces, and the couple gazebo, adorned with Peach and Pink flowers. The roof/ceiling of the tent/marquee has Gold stars scattered all over, and as an added advantage, the incandescent chandeliers or warm white, is giving off a golden glow consequently highlighting the gold stars. 

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Also, you could use Gold as the main colour as the overall décor design. Then your Turquoise Blue and Peach become added touches to the golden décor theme. Like the Marie Antoinette Gold themed décor picture from Wedluxe.com below.

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In these pictures you can tell that the Wedding Style is Formal with a Modern twist. The tall French windows, the cutlery, the deep set gold chiavari chairs, the menu card design and the cute peachy pinky wedding favours with “Merci” written on them in elegant calligraphy. Hmm…breath taking, isn’t it. I’m sure it was.

Another way to give a flow to your décor colours is by using Peach as the main colours and using turquoise and gold as the décor centerpieces or table settings like in the Marie Antoinette in Peach reverse. Lol!

So there you go, Turquoise/ Aqua Blue with Peach and a touch of Gold!

♥ ‘Jumoke Abudu!

Green and Yellow Mix

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Hello Everyone!

How are you all doing?

I’d like to express my condolences to the families of the June 3, 2012 Dana plane crash. That was a sad Sunday, which dealt a hard blow to me and a lot of my friends. May the faithful God we serve, be our strength and comfort, and may the souls of the departed be welcomed with Joy into ever loving arms of our Heavenly Father, in Jesus name. Amen.

I had promised some time ago, to do a colour combination of green and yellow. Thus the title post.

Remember the Primary Colour Kingdom of far way? And its distinguished families of Red, Yellow, and Blue? Lol!

Green happens to be a love child of Blue and Yellow, thus making it a secondary colour.  Yellow is one of the prominent families in the Primary Colour Kingdom of  far way. Personally I think Green is best friends with Yellow. This is because in colour wheels they mostly placed juxtaposed.

Green is said to be an earthy colour, because you can identify it with nature, like trees, foliage , grass etc. It can be categorised as a colour of new beginnings, nature, wealth stability, growth, fertility, renewal, abundance etc. Yellow is often considered and associated with hope, courage, and sunshine. It can also be said to have a sense of happiness, cheerfulness, brightness, and energy giving of colours.

Green is never just green alone in “Aso Ebi” (Friends/Family uniform) colours. It’s usually type or shade of green. These are the popular/common shades of green used in for Aso Ebi in Nigeria, they are;

  • Olive Green
  • Mint Green
  • Bottle Green

You could confuse a simple person if you said your wedding colours were deep mustard yellow and rich foliage green. Lol!

In simple terms that means, bottle green and dark yellow. Don’t go saying fancy names, like canary yellow or sunbeam yellow, you’ll confuse them. It’s either yellow, light yellow or dark yellow. You can almost (if not never) find colour combinations of green and white as weddings colours, only during Nigeria’s Independence Day Celebrations or some political rally or significant federal occasion.

When you combine green and yellow, you get a lime green/lemon green or lemon yellow colour combination. That’s one of the many beauties of green and yellow, they complement each other very well.

How to Mix Green Yellow

Sometimes, using just green and yellow, as your wedding colours may seem a bit too much in terms of brightness and its over powering ambience. You can calm down the bursting brightness by adding a softer colour to the mix. In the above inspiration board I made, the lemon/lime green table setting has pastel pink flowers that gives the brightness a more subdued welcoming feel, like this colour palette below.

Also, when using Green and Yellow for a garden wedding reception décor, choosing a darker shade of green or softer shade of green, would help compliment the natural foliage you have in the surrounding, with a touch of yellow and white, would pull it all together.

Unless your wedding is in the middle of the Saharan Desert or the icy tundra lands of Siberia. Hehehe!

Other colours to compliment Green and Yellow mix it

Remember my earlier post on Zesty Tangerine Tango?

Well, the Zesty Tangerine Tango and its shades of oranges to coral and peach mix very well with Green and Yellow!

A few décor tips

TIP 1: if you do decide to have your colours as green and yellow, and as an afternoon garden wedding reception, I strongly suggest letting your décor should be with touches of green and yellow, with a white base background colour.

TIP 2: if you decide to have your wedding reception in doors, and the wall colours are either cream, off white (ivory) or white, I suggest the same thing as TIP 1. It is with this that the use of LED light effects would be very handy.

Tip 3: when your décor is minimal, it is your chosen colours that will make beauty of the décor to pop!

I do hope all these random ramblings of mine make sense. Lol!

♥ J!

Purple’s Delight

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Hello!

In my last post, I spoke about mother’s day. I don’t know if anyone noticed the shades of pink that was involved in the inspiration board? Hmm…I guess not. Not to worry, I’ll refer to it soon.  I also mentioned in my last post that I was going to talk about the love of Purple by two friends of mine. i have come to appreciate the colour now more than ever before. So, I here by dedicate this post to my dear friends “FahLily” and “Mizez Smalls”, the true lovers of Purple’s Delight!

So let’s start with a brief story of Purple.

Once upon a time, there were 3 prominent families of the Primary Colours Kingdom, far far way. The families were Red, Yellow and Blue.  They were the great descendants of White and Black. One day, the families of Red and Blue decided to arrange the marriages of both their children, Lady Redd and Sir Blu. Lady Redd and Sir Blu had beautiful PURPLE children. 

Now, Lady Magenta (Lady Redd’s Dark twin sister), was Sir Blu’s secret lover, however she was banished to live in a tower by their father, The Duke of Red because she was pregnant with Sir Blu’s babies!

Lol! I’m sure everyone is probably laughing their heads off, but I do hope you understand the theory behind the story, with the colour palettes to give a clearer understanding of the different hues that can be generated from combination of red and blue, and blue with magenta. I will talk about magenta another day, promise. But right now, it’s all about PURPLE!

In Nigeria, when you are told that the colour of the day for an event is Purple, its majorly associated with gold or silver. Purple is categorised and associated with royalty, nobility, death, Lent, Easter, Mardi Gras, upper class, poison, friendship,  passion, wisdom, rage, sympathy, wealth, sophistication etc.

With the above Purple colour palette, those shades of purple are usually confused as shades of red and pink. Trust me, I didn’t know either until I researched it. FYI, there is no burgundy in that family of magenta and blue purple, burgundy IS NOT related wine. They look alike, but don’t share the same combinations. In that family they have, mauve (which could also be called sangria), plum, wisteria, iris, wine, lilac, lavender, and indigo. Where’s violet I hear someone ask. It’s the last bottom box to the right in the colour palette of red and blue purple.

I also went searching for colours that could be mixed with all the shades of the purple family and I ended up registering to a colour lovers community called COLOURLovers, lol. I also found a blog with colour theories that helps with deriving colour themes from fabrics and general surroundings.

Now here are some purple shades mixed with OTHER colours other than the usual, gold, silver, and lilac.

I love this combo! Notice the difference in the shades of purple? See this inspiration board below.

Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise, purple and orange are lovely together! 

Wow! With all these colours popping everywhere I’m excited! Here is a link to the Knots wedding site, where i played around with purple pictures for a clients inspiration board. http://www.theknot.com/inspiration-boards/Gallery/Details/99080

I do hope you like these colour combos.  I’d love to hear from you soon. *kisses* and have a lovely week.

♥ J!